oh, Life.

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This is a caption I once wrote that got a lot of reactions from my instagram community. It`s a bit controversial and agressive but that`s how I felt at that moment... hahaha... Here you go:

Have you heard the sentence: "ages like fine wine" ... well, I have something to say. There is a very unjust risk that women in their 20s and 30s take in comparison to men in their 20s and 30s. Solely because of family planning and dating demand. Let's just completely put aside that the beauty standard for women is... still looking like a teenager... such as smooth skin, no cellulite, no body fat... the rosy cheeks of an 11 year old... all those things.

Women who plan to have children within a reasonable age, well mid thirties at the latest... and men being fertile basically their entire lives. We take disproportionately a much larger risk by dating any man in our twenties. It is always in the back of our minds that this is the prime of our lives. We will never be as young, fertile and 'naive' as in this stage... and breaking off a long term relationship is much different for a 30 year old woman than for it is for a man.

We are actively gambling our only chance of having a family. And being betrayed at 25 upwards really hits different. I can't tell you how many stories I've heard of women that were dating a man for years and years. And after the break up... they were married to someone else six months later. For us women, to detach emotionally in such a short time, we would have to be sligtly sociopathic. Dating is a life gamble for us. If we date for love, and we wouldn't usually have planned on working while having children, but the man we fell in love with can't financially provide for an entire family... we will be in the office at eight months pregnant. And no, that's not a bad thing for everyone. I, for my part find it extremly admirable when women do this. But, it is a type of sacrifice.

We are the ones who have pressure from our biological clock.

Most women feel their 'demand` on the dating market is decreasing year by year. As soon as we don't look like a newborn babies anymore, that's an indicator in a lot of mans eyes for deteriorating fertility... and we have to adjust our dating pool as such.

Men don't have this pressure.